My friend and collaborator Alan Moore (no relation) pointed out this terrific quotation from John Stuart Mill. There’s good wisdom for facilitators: it’s not our job to get everyone to be the same it’s more about making good use of our differences.
“Human nature is not a machine to be built after a model, and set to do exactly the work prescribed for it,
but a tree which requires to grow and develop itself on all sides, according to the tendency of the inward forces which make it a living thing.
Such are the differences among human beings in their sources of pleasure, their susceptibilities of pain, and the operation on them of different physical and moral agencies,
that unless there is a corresponding diversity in their modes of life, they neither obtain their fair share of happiness, nor grow up to the mental, moral, and aesthetic stature of which their nature is capable.”