Rules reduce learning

A New Zealand School ditches the safety rules for its playground and gets some pretty amazing results. The Principal comments: The kids were motivated, busy and engaged. In my experience, the time children get into trouble is when they are not busy, motivated and engaged. It’s during that time they bully other kids, graffiti or […]

Complexity in conversations

Anne Marie McEwan reflects on the complexity of relationships in her post, Complexify Yourself: I think that complexity takes on another dimension when people interact. We are not pre-determined entities or objects – we ourselves are complex. We change and develop. How we feel and act on a particular day emerges from many things that can […]

Difficult conversations, part 3

This is the third episode in my series of short videos about having difficult conversations. (Part One Part Two) I talk about the Marshmallow Challenge  and the benefits of rapid prototyping in making physical things. I then suggest that we can use a similar approach to rapidly prototype behaviour. Instead of getting stuck in analysis-paralysis, […]

Difficult conversations, part 2

This is the second of my series of short videos about difficult conversations. (Part one here) In this one I talk about the importance of respecting that the difficult conversations are difficult. Often advice or simple rules fail to acknowledge this: offering apparently simple solutions actually increases the stress. Instead, I take the view that […]

Difficult conversations workshop, Cambridge, Feb 6th

My friend Antony Quinn and I are running our Difficult Conversations workshop again in Cambridge. We really enjoyed the one we did in December so we are rinsing-and-repeating. It’s on Thursday February 6th from 10am to 1pm. Full details & booking info are here Here’s a bit of the blurb we wrote for the event […]

Difficult conversations

In coaching I find a lot of my work comes down to helping people find ways to deal with difficult conversations.  In meetings, whatever brilliant process you use, people’s willingness to talk about the tricky stuff is what really makes a difference to the success. So I’m putting together a few short videos talking about […]