Meeting and the post-coital cigarette

Johnnie Moore

Johnnie Moore

I’m Johnnie Moore, and I help people work better together

I was thinking about the fabled importance of the post-coital cigarette. I think we like the idea because it’s a sign that the climax shouldn’t be an ending of relating.

In pop psychology we’re encouraged to think of unfinished business as a kind of pyschological trash we need to clear out. Whereas unfinished business in what keeps our relationships alive.

So to those in meeting who insist on closure and clarity… that’s all fine. But do you want to be the kind of partner who just rolls over and falls asleep?

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