One of my friends from the world of Improv Andrew Burnham has sent me a nice little thought piece on being in the moment(pdf). It’s about how our buttons get pressed and a way of dealing with this.
If a golf ball hits you on the head is the pain in the golf ball or is the pain in you? Of course the pain is in me you say. It’s easy to see that our reactions are not in the difficult people or challenging situations. Our reactions are clearly in us so why not look for solutions where they really are and not where we are unlikely to find them?