Johnnie Moore

But I’m a good facilitator!

Johnnie Moore

Johnnie Moore

I’m Johnnie Moore, and I help people work better together

There’s a game that improvisers sometimes play. It allows any actor to simply reject any offer they don’t happen to like from another player. At which point, the offeror is dragged off the stage by his fellow actors, and has to cry out “But I’m a good improviser!”

Like all improv set ups, a simple framework sparks all sorts of responses but for me it’s an exercise in naming, accepting and letting go of the part of us that think it knows what’s best for the group.

I was reminded of this by Chris Corrigan’s recent post, this bit in particular:

Imagine this construction:

1. People are yelling at each other.

2. They are in conflict and I hate conflict.

3. I am a peacemaker.

So yes, but in the moment, you are going to suffer some when the meeting you are running counters your experience of yourself. You will think that you are failing if you are “a peacemaker” and yet your participants ar eyelling at each other. As a facilitator, when I get caught in that kind of thinking, I notice that I immediately become quite useless to the group. Why? Because I have left reality and I am spinning around in my thinking about reality, suffering and self-involved as my identity and ego get challenged.

People who have no thoughts about conflict are incredibly resourceful when yelling arises. They simply see yelling, they are able to listen and observe and notice what is happening. But those of us that are still working on our comfort with conflict might shy away from it, shrink away in fear, try to paper over differences or deny the reality of the moment in favour of a temporary comfort.

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