David Wilcox reports on a Gurteen Knowledge Cafe session on networking,

we all milled about with labels showing two things we wanted to Get and two things we wanted to Give

I guess the insight for me was that I rarely go into that sort of situation expecting to give AND to receive - I either call someone for help, and am entirely focused on my need, not expecting to have to give something in return, or else I call someone to offer help but am not open to how they might be able to help me out.