Johnnie Moore

Responsibility + Helplessness

continuing to explore monarchy vs mesh
Johnnie Moore

Johnnie Moore

I’m Johnnie Moore, and I help people work better together

The perils of over-reaching for control

Transcript of this video:

So I’m continuing to reflect on the contrast between, um,

the system of monarchy in this diagram

and the mesh in, in this one.

And one of the hazards of monarchy.

When we think that we’re, we place ourselves at the centre

of affairs as if we are somewhat in control, we are likely

to fall into the trap

that the great writer Richard Farson identifies in his

wonderful, short, concise,

somewhat contrarian book Management of the Absurd,

where he argues that if you are responsible for,

let’s say a system, but you’re actually somewhat helpless

’cause you can’t really control it.

You have, you’ve overloaded yourself.

You are spinning too many plates,

more plates than you can successfully keep going.

That’s going to lead to abuse.

And I think even in, even on LinkedIn where there are

so many of us posting as if we are, we want to be the centre

of attention, it all becomes a little bit abusive in some

ways of ourselves, as I think as, as much as it, as it is

of others because we’re kind of breaking some of the kind

of, what you might call fundamental rules

of human relationship we’re trying to relate to

and sometimes control too many people.

If I remind myself to think of more of a mesh,

I lower my target somewhat.

I look for a smaller number of closer connections,

which which might be to human beings or,

or right now it’s actually to nature.

I’ve come out here by the river in Cambridge for a walk

to sort of be with, slow down a bit

and be with, with the greenery,

and have a sense of being part of a wider system

and not so in control and not so responsible.

 

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